The Power of pain to heal you

 

   The Power of pain to heal you  

Everybody is broken from the inside no matter how much they laugh smile or stay happy, at least once in a lifetime everyone goes through a trauma/ painful period irrespective of their age. The reason why get fragmented in pieces doesn't matter but your understanding of reason matters. 

There was a guy in Poland Dabrowski who was a psychologist, psychiatrist, physician, and supporter of Polish people against the Nazis in World War. Since he was against Nazis, he was sent to detention camps and was tortured.  Whatever he went through in the detention center, he came out with his theory of personal development.  He had summarized the process of growing through pain in his theory of positive disintegration. In his theory, Dabrowski explained that Pains and suffering aren't always damaging but instead they help us to grow. In the 1970s when people and philosophers were talking about Self-esteem, this guy came up with his theory.  Initially, he wasn't recognized for his work but then after his death, his theory started getting some recognition. Now in modern medicine, this is known as a post-traumatic outgrowth. Whatever Dabrowski said in the 1970s [ fucking 50 years ago] is the thing that we need to understand right now "Psychological tension and anxieties are necessary for growth".

 You should let the pain heal you.  Healing doesn't mean joining the broken pieces in an algorithm but instead healing means that searching for the broken pieces and then joining them with the reason they broke so that the next time you do not need healing for that.  Everybody has their healing point and you gotta go and find that out. The healing point implies that -when something will provide you peace, solitude and no matter how fucked up you are in your life, practicing that thing will heal you from any kind of distress. It can be anything, it can be you, meditation, or any other. But finding your healing point isn't easy because you are going to get through a lot of pain, shortcomings, and suffering. Healing requires time but that is worth giving because once you are healed, you are unbreakable at that peculiar point. 

The harsh truth of the day is that You cannot heal yourself till the time you are accepting the fact that you are broken. Escaping reality will never make you feel the harmony.  You may look happy after escaping the truth but from the inside you are decomposing. When you are getting through a lot of harsh times in your life then for once just think that Somewhere you're suffering, pain is healing you. You are healing yourself with the reason why you get shattered.

 But if we rewind this article then a valid question arises that why humans get broken? The answer to this question is that we, humans, always run on the hedonic treadmill.  This is a psychological theory that explains that expectation tends to adapt to the conditions and even when our expectations are fulfilled, we want things to be improved or in simple words that we are never quite satisfied.  We are stuck on the hedonic treadmill, running faster and faster but not understanding what we are doing. For instance, a person wins a lottery, he will be very excited that he will become a millionaire overnight but with time his level of happiness decreases. He will adapt to the new lifestyle and it will be a new normal for him. We, humans, are never satisfied with what we have right now and that is the reason why we get broken easily. We built our expectations and then we compare our level of happiness with the result of our expectations. We think that the wealthier we are, the happier we will be in our lives, this is temporary happiness and gradually you will realize that it was an unreal aspect of happiness. Everybody is broken but no one will come and help you get healed you gotta help yourself in the process of growing from pain. 

Thank you!

Stay safe 

Loads of strength 💪