Human connection

Human connection

 I think we have lost touch of it a while ago, in our quest to self-improve and in the brain rot that is out there we have somehow forgotten that we are social beings, which used to live and exist in groups and not isolated. But this so-called trend of being with yourself has taken a dirty turn where we have neglected what human connections does to us and trying to be alone so hard to fight things and get through them that we lose hope in the way and calling out seems a senseless pathetic cry for help but this is not how it was supposed to be. So, lets rewind a little and understand what human connection means.

Human connection isn’t just being intimate with your partner or hugging someone though these can a form of it but it is just not that. Human as a species has evolved over time from learning how to survive in wild, to feeding the hunt to your people, to burying your dead ones to now just a species left to sit in front of screens and blaming themselves on everything (you see how pathetic it looks a third point of view now). We as a generation or community or just a species is failing terribly and we aren’t even realizing it, the fact that you have not talked to one of your really good mates of childhood who meant so much to you in so many years just because you were apparently too busy, and that hustle has given you everything you wanted in life as reminiscing the good time means nothing more than feel good emotion. Mark the sarcasm here. This isn’t to taunt you but if you are taking it as one then that’s great too but primarily it’s to show you that as the time passes, losing the sense of human connections in form of a 10 min walk to a simple lunch or just sitting with someone who matters to you when you’re alone rather than letting yourself get consumed in absurd things and thoughts or just talking and smiling at that stranger instead of looking down at your phone is just making you less of life and more fragile from within.

You should realise that there is reason behind every emotion that exist for example, if love as an emotion is just a myth, then grief wouldn’t exist, people won’t lose their spark when a sharer of this ridiculous of a life leaves them. Grief exists to show that you are meant to love. Similarly thrill exists to show that we can feel fear too. What I want you to take from it is not that don’t love or thrill is better than fear, it’s that we humans were made to exist together and not in cyber cubicle, because if that was the case then then these emotions wouldn’t exist. Then you wouldn’t grieve the loss of someone when they leave but rather just feel sympathy. 

You know why its easier to love animals, because when you love a being which can’t speak and its not self-conscious then we love them for just existing, not for what they can bring or can do but how giving them love brings us more peace. How by loving them like a habit and not a chore fills us with more life. Unconditionally as the books says. And there’s nothing wrong in doing this what’s more critical to realise is that giving out love bring you more of it and not receiving it. I’m not saying don’t receive it but rather start giving it out to the creations of this abode, be it an animal, a stranger looking lost in his life, an orphan looking hungry on sideway of road, your long-forgotten friend which made your childhood memorable or just simply to the people who claim to love you. Receive their love and give it out because it’s one thing that doesn’t become less when given but rather more. This is a what human connection supposed to looks like. It’s as mundane as salt in existence. Only the lack of it makes you realise the tasteless food. In no means it’s says that you shouldn’t spend time alone or be in your own bubble but spending time alone and rotting in self-sabotage were two different things last, I remember. Remember the difference between them.

This note is just to remind you to try and go live a life how you were supposed to, give your friend a flower, hug someone you love, buy a coffee to a stranger, walk with yourself or just take a damn nap! You need to be able to disconnect from the life you were being brain fed to live to connect to the one which you should. Earn money but have someone to spend it with, travel as much as you can but have someone to share its stories too. Human connection isn’t about making people everything but rather loving yourself so much so to be able to give yourself all the experiences and emotions that exist in world to feel.

There's a African proverb, “when death finds you, may it find you alive”

 Loads of strength

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